Games (Lost and Frustrated) Expats Play

We’re all nigh on frantic about the economy, the election, the climate crisis, health care, and the war. I can’t imagine how bad it is in the perennial media-storm of the U.S., but I’m experiencing it all on top of life in a foreign country. Call us even. So to ease the mood, I’ll take a pass on the bloggings of deep profundity that had been tempting me and offer some merrier fare. In fact, I’ll share just how we are dealing with it all. My wife and I have devised little games, bits of amusement to help us enjoy the routine of our days, while also making a little lighter the elements of foreignness that constantly pull us down.

Taxi Titans

This was our first China sport, as you play it whenever you get in a cab. In every cab, the driver has to display his (though sporadically her) license, with picture and number. Often, the picture doesn’t match the driver, which we have decided not to worry about. The number is the real source of amusement. They range from 0 – 310,000, in order of when the cabbie received their license. To a degree, the lower the number, the more experienced the cabbie and the better service we receive. Cabbies over 300,000 rarely know the effective short-cuts or even try to understand my pathetic Mandarin. By contrast, those under 100k can often shave 10% off the usual price of a long trip and offer free language lessons during the ride. (more on that later) Yesterday, Mr. 97,000 made a rare wrong turn and gave me two yuan back at the end. I didn’t complain when he made his mistake, so I suspect the refund was purely a matter of pride, a self-punishment inflicted to keep him on his razor edge. For us, the challenge of the game is to find the lowest number possible. We are in constant pursuit of the Johnny Appleseed of Shanghai taxis, the legendary 000001. We firmly expect that he will pick us up one cold and rainy night when we are completely lost in some nether reach of the city, perhaps driving an all-white taxi that hovers on a small cloud. Currently, we’ve gone no lower than 3559, and as everyone in Shanghai knows, no cabbies ever pick you up in the rain.

The StopHand

This is a game with real stakes, begun by my wife and her stubbornness. I’m a reluctant participant through prayer and memorization of how to say “Hospital” in Mandarin. You see, the right of way is firmly established in China, more so than almost any other country I’ve been in. Mind you, however, that we walkers do not have it. Ever. Cars make left turns, right turns on red, and proceed through stop signs with nary a pause for pedestrians, completely assured that we pathetic folk of the foot should wait for them. Usually, my wife waits for no one. After weeks of frustration, she now forcefully puts out a hand when threatened by cars, palm out in the universal statement of, "You will stop for me." She is convinced that she is “bringing the Stop-Hand to China.” Generally it works well, occasionally my heart flutters, but so far the car always stops.

Angry or Mandarin

To our English-attuned ear, Mandarin is a very harsh sounding language. Shanghainese, I’ve been told, is even more strident. When we first arrived, we rushed to our balcony a half-dozen times expecting to see a fight on the corner. Generally, it was humdrum activities like a discussion between a parking lot attendant and driver. We understood nothing but the wave and “Goodbye!” at the end, but could surmise it hadn’t been an angry encounter after all. Now, when we hear raised voices below our apartment, around the corner, or at the table across the aisle, we wonder, “Angry or Mandarin?” Before searching for context clues: smiles, good-bye hugs, or thrown napkins, we have to make an initial guess. Even with ten weeks of practice, we’re still wrong with surprising frequency.

Major League Bike-Hauling

This is a China classic. The working class here, denied by their nine-day work week any participation in such leisure activities as kite-flying, card-playing, or tai chi, have designed their own national pastime-in-working: Extreme Bikecart Hauling. At first, my heart sank with sympathy for the poor souls carrying mountains of recyclables, hardware, or the oddly shaped thing, across the city on a bike-cart. The more I studied them and their rate of speed, however, the more I realized that the towering piles could not possibly be the best way to transport goods by bike-cart. Any logic of economics or efficiency would suggest two trips. Instead, I now firmly believe that carrying the most incredible load is a badge of pride, the insertion of some small piece of status into an arduous and awful job. The bike hauler may never own an apartment or car, leave Shanghai or use a computer, but he can, at the very least, carry the largest pile of wood ever fit on a bike-cart. Who am I to deny him his moment of excellence? Appreciation, rather than heartache, seems the more appropriate display of respect. Having decided it’s okay to enjoy, I’m an avid bike-hauling fan. Each dimension offers its own challenge. We once saw someone biking down the street with ten feet of bamboo extending from either end of the cart. A trip to the ever reconstructing old-town featured a man who had given up bicycling and was simply pushing his twenty cubic foot load of bricks. Water-bottle haulers have to compete in their own division, due to the eccentricity of their shape. (Only rookies use wire cages or, worse yet, stack a simply pyramid.) The overall volume champion is pictured above. When he appeared in my peripheral vision, I almost didn’t look, mistaking the shape for a semi-truck.